Published 19/10/17  3:58pmby Chris Lee


Happiness and washing up

By Chris Lee – another of our new Prospective Members

In documentaries, lights are shone on lives and lifestyles that are unusual and intriguing – and removed from the norms that define viewers’ lives. ‘Happy’ is a documentary showcasing lives defined by their happiness and the lifestyle decisions that led there. It features cohousing amongst various other positive and inpsiring things, and it was a lifestyle that made sense immediately.

If I’m being candid, the reason it appealed immediately was the prospect of having to do less washing up. In the cohousing project they visited, meals were eaten in a common area with a rota for cooking and cleaning – I think each family had to cook and wash up once a fortnight.

But investigating further revealed many other benefits, and ones not motivated by laziness: a focus on community and socialising leads to a rich social life. A focus on security and shared vigilance protects both the property and other residents’ well-being. A built-in support network means there is always someone to lend an ear or a hand when you need it, or lend a bit of milk when you run out.

On a small scale these things make for an appealing place to live, but on a larger scale they point to the potential of cohousing to work toward alleviating serious social issues like isolation and loneliness, and the numerous problems that arise from such things.

What an exciting thing to be involved with.

Documentaries also give a sense of otherness, and after watching Happy I remember thinking how nice it would be if cohousing could work in the UK, then assuming it probably couldn’t for various reasons and thinking no more about it. But when Bill showed me Lilac and told me about the various other projects happening in Yorkshire, those reasons no longer stood up to scrutiny.

Seeing the ChaCo journey, the amount of work it has involved, and the underlying belief that a positive and inspiring way of life can exist in the UK has been a pleasure. The possibility of living there (assuming I haven’t missed the boat) and to contribute toward its continued existence will be a privilege.

And don’t worry – I no longer have an aversion to washing up 😉